The Tragedy of Grief can become opportunity
While walking this morning, one of the speakers on the podcast that I was listening said those words.
What is interesting to me is that this message has been drumming in my spirit ever since Terry went to Heaven.
In my journal on January 2, 2017 I wrote, “Life will go on, and you will never fade from my love. I receive the strength, love, and grace that you have shown me, our kids, our grandchildren, family, friends all these years. God has sown me that I can be strong and rise up to this challenge, after all, if God is for us, who can be against us”.
Later, I heard Dave Sanderson speak about how surviving the crash of flight 1549 into the Hudson spurred him on to a new purpose in life.
Reading in Option B, today, I read about how the survivors of a plane crash in 1972 found the strength and unity to come together with hope and encouragement to, not only survive, but to go on to use this experience to not only help themselves, but to reach out to others.
I hear a constant voice in my spirit that God is changing me, my identity, and giving me a new purpose.
When I was designing software, we had a phrase; “Domain expertise”. I have to confess that before this tragedy I had no clue about the path that grieving can take one down.
Today, I am super sensitive and aware. I am not only aware about the my particular situations, but I am also becoming more aware about tragedies others are facing. While it is not something that I had sought out, this tragedy is forcing me into more life experiences surrounding this whole grief thing. I am becoming a "domain expert", because I am living it.
I am not perfect, nor am I am an “expert”, at all. And, it is becoming a life journey for me; never ending. I simply have specific experiences that I have had, or are having.
What God has shown me as I follow Him to rise up to this challenge, is that I have a new purpose in life. I will be the first to admit that I still don’t, completely have a vision for what that is. What I do know is that He is leading down a new path in life.
It has been said that the two greatest days of your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out what your purpose is.
As I travel down this trail towards purpose, three things are starting to come into my sights.
Get more action. I tend to overthink things. Nike has the slogan, “Just Do It”. Well, I am hearing this in my spirit, to. Just do it. Get out of the house. Open your heart to friends. Create new social opportunities. Volunteer, mentor, coach. Go to a concert. Go to several concerts! Go to those breakfasts or luncheons that you have been avoiding. Call up someone just to say hi. Start that blog. Read that book. Change your routine. Eliminate some things that don’t contribute to you finding your purpose. Go for a trip. Start Journaling. OK, God. I get it. Get off my bxxx and “Just Do It”.
Drop from your head to your heart. To often, I think with my head. As I am putting together ideas for ministering to others, I am overthinking things. Is it formatted right? Does the material even make sense? How will I get the word out? How will I write material. Will the material even make sense. In spite of my head, my heart is saying “You grieve, but others grieve. You needed community, others needed community. Serve others”.
Break up with the “ONE”. Before, I was focused on one (actually two) things. Work, and taking care of Terry. That ONE thing of work became the focus of everything for me. I lived and breathed work. So much so, that there was not enough room in my life for anything else. It even interfered with the real love of my life, taking care of Terry. God blessed me in September of 2016 when I was laid off (another story). I now had ONE thing in my life to focus on. But, that ONE thing also took away from finding real purpose for me. Today, I am retired, I fellowship with friends, I take care of my kids and grandkids, and love on those that are most important to me. I am a pilot and starting to discern a purpose in using this passion for others. I have a dream of “Re-Impacting”. Using my own life experiences to re-impact those that are coming after us by being more of a coach (especially Technology-related). God has given me many talents. By breaking up with ONE, I can explore and build and use those talents for His glory; not mine.
Shannon Kaiser describes these three principals in a blog entry, dated June 19, 2014. In closing her article, she says:
Passion + Daily Action = Purposeful Life
Consider that the real purpose of anyone’s life is to be fully involved in living. Try to be present for the journey and fully embrace it. Soon you will be oozing with passion, and you will feel so purposeful and fulfilled you will wonder how you lived life without it. Enjoy the journey into your own awesome life.